Who knew that when you were young and having children and caring for their every need that at some point in life, those same children demanding your time and energy and "drop everything to help me", would be the same people, as adults, that not only don't need your help, they don't want your help and don't have the time to include you in their everyday lives. So....you did your job and they are independent. I remember being busy as a young adult with children and not having a lot of time but every time I went to town, I swung by my husband's parent's home and visited for a few minutes. My children were able to see their grandparents and get to know them more each time. The times that my children slept over at gramma's house , they learned about grandma and grandpa and vice versa. My daughter chose to speak at her grandmother's funeral because she had grown to know and love her grandmother. In this day and age, families don't always live close and thus, families cannot have the support of senior members because of location. I firmly believe that grandparents are needed to re-affirm love and standards, if not to their children, at least to the grandchildren. It is my opinion that once the children have married and have children of their own, it's time to find something that you love to fill your time. If possible, fill time with loving your children and grandchildren but if not, it's time to think of something to fill up your days. I have spent many days feeling like an old shoe, of no value to anyone anymore. But it certainly isn't true....only if you let it be true. As older citizens, we have so much of life lessons that we could pass along to those coming after us, and even though it seems like things are different with the new generations, the only thing that really changes is morals and fashion....and sometimes, not even that. Through the coming days, I would like to write about several topics but all pertaining to us as seniors. I will be writing about being an "empty nester", about grandchildren and what we can do to be better grandparents, and continuing education, dealing with health issues and volunteering and patriotism and getting our lives in order and more. Seniors, arise and be heard. Be heard in love and in example and in doing what's right. The younger generation, even if they don't know it, need us. Isn't that why we write history, so that those that come after us, don't make the same mistakes and mankind can progress.
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